As a therapist, my primary goal that each and every person who walks in my door carries is a deep desire for having love@home. It’s by believe and experience that no matter what is their presenting problem by creating love@home their healing will occur, become complete and life lasting. I became a therapist out of my interest and belief in the family. It all started during my sophomore year in college in Dr. Barlow’s class. Dr. Barlow was not only a superb professor and marriage and family therapist who wrote an editorial column in the local newspaper and author of several books, he was a family man. His family was his real pride and joy above and beyond all his accomplishments. He gave me a love for the family”. I knew I wanted to be just like him when I grew up.
I have been asked to write for a method writing class I am taking with Jack Grapes-You ought to check him out-Anyway, he says its important to learn to write my talk as I value the truth my voice speaks. It’s about the process. At first, I thought, “hmm, this is therapy. He is sounding just like me in the therapy room. Am I here to get my own therapy in an unconventional way?” As he continued to talk, that is to talk his truth–although all so familiar, I was mesmerized by the process unfolding in front of my eyes. My heart started to beat as I moved up to the edge of my seat. Then it happened.
I am learning the lessons in the phrase, “Don’t take things at face value.” Have you ever dived into something with the intent of achieving a certain goal only to find it to be yet another detour. Well this has been theme of my 2009 thus far! I simply wanted to share my message and successfully teach the tools and insights I have gained over the years I have worked with people who have shared the battles they conquered by applying the techniques shared in my office. I had devoted the year to finishing my book and getting it out to the public. In order to accomplish the task I had set aside every weekend to write, create and market. In addition I would start my seminars and get them moving…and off and running we would go…but that is not how the year has been going.
As I have been anxiously engaged in pursuing my life from my Ideal Self, I have been enlighten, some days, moment by moment. The key to my Self discovery is the willingness and ability to come from a place of confidence in my own uniqueness and wonder in this world. In turn, each and every interaction I encounter is magnified by another’s uniqueness and the wonder about them. My life as been accentuated with a brightness and joy that can not be dimmed by today’s “doomsday” messages of the recession. The challenges ahead are not being naively ignored, just re framed as more opportunity for growth and connection with one another. So be happy. Celebrate your Ideal Self and embrace each moment as a new opportunity to create a miracle and fulfill you Ultimate Purpose!